Your phone is ruining your relationship (but it’s really your fault)


It’ll probably come as little surprise to hear that tech can have negative consequences on your life.

That’s right, your phone is ruining your relationship and your sex life – and you don’t have to take Durex’s word for it.

Tech and connectivity are said to have contributed to a decline in sex over the last 30 years. Talking at the Hay Festival, David Spiegelhalter, Winton Professor of the Public Understanding of Risk at the University of Cambridge, said it’s down to streaming and smartphones.

“I think it’s the box set, Netflix. ‘OMG I’ve got to watch the entire second series of Game of Thrones.'”

Of course, it’s not just blanking out for hours on end watching Netflix that’s the problem. You also check your phone an alarming number of times every day. You know you’re addicted, but you probably don’t know just how addicted.

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You’re not alone; 20 percent of ‘millennials’ couldn’t tell you either.


In fact, online retail coupon database, Coupofy, suggests that 28 percent of millennials suffer FOMO so badly they want to check their smartphones during sex

Of the 2,000 people they surveyed, 12 percent give in to that temptation and “check their phone during sex or while making out”, while overall 30 percent said that checking their phone is the first thing they do after having sex.

According to Brandon McDaniel, a human development expert at the Pennsylvania State University, “it is not only the technology that is to blame… personal characteristics and choice can also have a large, sometimes unseen, role.”

His research says that “individuals may be sending implicit messages about what they value most, leading to conflict and negative outcomes in personal life and relationships”

So it isn’t just the technology. Or the boxsets.

It’s not us. It’s you.

Yes, we know it’s hard but put down the phone. Switch off the laptop. You (probably) aren’t addicted – you’ve just forgotten how to do the other things.

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Butros K

Butros K

I’m Butros and I’m interested in how technology is shaping us. I’m based in London and you can get in touch with me on Twitter at ButrosButrosK.